Wednesday, November 03, 2010

Innovative Ideas in Parenting?

A couple of weeks ago, we took Pumpkin to Winnipeg with us for a family event. It is not news to us that anticipation of big plans like this make her hyper beyond belief, but we were banking on the various parties we were attending to diffuse her excitement. WRONG!

It's not like she was totally unfit to be out in public, but there was a lot of desperate bargaining, and threatening going on behind the scenes. We just found it too hard to discipline someone for being hyper, talking non-stop, and working herself into a frantic tizzy all because she was so excited to be there. We're also not big on causing public scenes. Beating one's kids in the airport seems to be out of style these days.

Anyhow, we made it through the week-end, barely, and have gotten back in the swing of time-outs and toy-removal. Nonetheless, she has continued to be the worst version of herself.

Then I got a voicemail today. It was from her teacher, advising me that Pumpkin was going to be receiving another award at this month's character trait assembly. If you've been following Pumpkin's achievements thus far, you will remember that she received an award last year for 'exemplary optimism'. This time she is getting an award for being 'responsible'.

Seizing the opportunity to get some compliance out of Pumpkin, I told her about the award, and how proud that we all are of her. She merely continued to cry about the injustice of not being allowed to eat Halloween candy for dinner, and subsequently made demands about which toys I had to buy her from the Mastermind toy catalogue.

As the evening went on, however, she calmed down a bit. I continued to explain her award to her, and how being responsible was such an important trait. She started to buy it. She started doing good things, and subsequently boasting about how 'responsible' she was being. She took care of her sister, and declared herself 'responsible!' She dressed herself and brushed her own teeth, declaring herself 'responsible'! By the time she went to bed, she was my dream child. Ok, not really, but she was being pretty good.

Assuming that the awards are going to be distributed fairly evenly amongst the other kids in the class, we're probably not going to be receiving another one any time soon. Would it be unethical to invent some fake awards and just tell her that the school mailed them to her?

6 comments:

Chantal said...

I am guessing half this post is missing...

Chantal said...

or your saving the rest for tomorrow. :)

Mac and Cheese said...

Sorry Chantal! It was a premature posting. Come back and read it now!

Chantal said...

"the school mailed them to her" thats a fab idea. I could use that with my 5yo. He is challenging me to no end these days. Of course I usually take the bait and end up yelling at him. It is soooooo fun around my house lately!

lacochran's evil twin said...

You could print your own "family" awards. And put fancy stickers on them!

"Best behaved oldest child" :)

Anonymous said...

Good for Pumpkin! Consider yourself fortunate: I've had two calls from my munchkin's school, too - one because she fell into a burr bush while playing monkey-in-the-middle at recess, and most recently, because she had lice. The very sight of the school's number on my call display makes my heart race!