Tuesday, January 27, 2009
We're not allowed to say that we hate them. If our children's behaviour is so bad day after day after day after day that we want to cry every morning because getting out the front door is so difficult, we aren't really permitted to hate them. If they ignore every single thing that we say, despite the time-outs, threats, removal of toys, etc., we still don't get to hate them. If the thought of them coming home from school makes us feel dread, and even getting them home from school is a challenge in itself, we can't say that it's the children that we hate. Even if our best intentions lead us to take them to programs that get met with resistance, tantrums, and futility, hate is still not permitted. Think of the judgement we would receive if we regularly expressed hatred for our kids. The more lenient of the judges would probably tell us that we don't hate them, but that we are just stressed by the trials of parenthood. Do feelings really need to be so complicated? I love my daughter the way a mother should, but sometimes...
Posted by Tania at 10:45 AM